Living in the south, I see teenage girls who are groomed from a very young age to get married after college. It’s almost like a Wedding Timeline for Southern Belles.
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The steps are very easy…
Go to a college
Meet your fiancé’
Get a degree ( in anything)
Marry your college sweet heart
Work in your chosen career field for 2-4 years
Have a baby
Become a stay at home mom
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I have seen this countless times and it makes me insane some days. It makes me feel inadequate for not doing as so many of my friends have done. I mean why can’t I be married, why did I have to do step # 6 before all of the rest. Why didn’t I listen to my mother about my son’s father?...
I thought that he would be “The One” …HA!...he showed his signs long ago but being 17 I didn’t take heed. Hell at 23 I didn’t want to believe the signs. I thought having a baby and finally getting our own would “change” him. So naïve…
Although I would love to be married I am happy I didn’t settle like other people I know. I couldn’t imagine being in an unhappy marriage. I don’t know how people do it.
There are times when I get sad about being single but then I remember that I want to be happy in whatever relationship I choose to be in and chill the hell out. It gets hard but I know one day My Prince will come…lol…Yeah I watch too many Disney movies but some dude , somewhere is waiting for Peachy and when I find him, I won’t let go, unless he’s nuttier than squirrel sh*t then I am cutting him loose with the quickness…lol…
Go to a college
Meet your fiancé’
Get a degree ( in anything)
Marry your college sweet heart
Work in your chosen career field for 2-4 years
Have a baby
Become a stay at home mom
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I have seen this countless times and it makes me insane some days. It makes me feel inadequate for not doing as so many of my friends have done. I mean why can’t I be married, why did I have to do step # 6 before all of the rest. Why didn’t I listen to my mother about my son’s father?...
I thought that he would be “The One” …HA!...he showed his signs long ago but being 17 I didn’t take heed. Hell at 23 I didn’t want to believe the signs. I thought having a baby and finally getting our own would “change” him. So naïve…
Although I would love to be married I am happy I didn’t settle like other people I know. I couldn’t imagine being in an unhappy marriage. I don’t know how people do it.
There are times when I get sad about being single but then I remember that I want to be happy in whatever relationship I choose to be in and chill the hell out. It gets hard but I know one day My Prince will come…lol…Yeah I watch too many Disney movies but some dude , somewhere is waiting for Peachy and when I find him, I won’t let go, unless he’s nuttier than squirrel sh*t then I am cutting him loose with the quickness…lol…
2 comments:
I met so many girls during college that planned to follow those steps. Some of them succeeded, some of them failed, some of them don't know that they've failed yet, lol. I say- forget the steps! Life is to be lived . . . if everything went according to plan, we'd be bored to death!
The right man will come! Don't worry. And he won't be a man that you'll have to mold, shape, or change. He'll be custom fit, just for you! lol.
Thanks B...I have just this past year let go of "The Rules"...and life couldn't be better...lol...
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