::Busy,Busy,Busy::

Hey to my followers and lurkers,

I know it's been a minute but I have been one busy woman. I promise I will be back soon...

Peachy...

::Unexpected::

Tonight I got some very unexpected news from a good friend. Her daughter's father passed away suddenly today. Sometimes we get so caught up in our overly busy everyday lives, that we forget to take time out and cherish the things that mean the most to us.

RIP Jamie...Gone but Never forgotten...

:: Friends, How Many Of Us Have Them::

Growing up it seemed that I had a never ending circle of friends…I moved back and forth between my mom and gramz but I was always able to befriend people…Once I got into high school I developed what I thought was long lasting friendships with people who I treated as my own family.

As I grew older I realized all these so called last friendships/family like bonds I had made were all for the sake of hanging with the funny, cute semi-popular girl that was high school Peachy…I went to high school in a town where it is impossible, to not see one of those high school BFF’s…For me moving back here meant being back with my girls and having those Sex In The City nights out and beach vacations with not a care in the world, I was so wrong about that…

There were 2 people I expected to reconnect with almost instantly and it just didn’t happen. I mean had our lives become filled with so many mundane grown up tasks that we couldn’t be there for each other anymore?...or was it just the friendship had faded into the NeverNeverLand that high school becomes 5 or so years after graduation.

Of the 2 I can say for sure one of my former BFF’s really does lead an extremely busy life and what little free time she has she dedicates to her son and future hubby. I can respect that though. When she does have time we take the boys out to lunch and so a little shopping. It’s refreshing, it’s almost like for a moment in time we are back in high school and doing the things we loved to do at 17. I love you Niqueboo…

Of these friendships the one that is fading away at this very moment is hurting me the most. For years she and I endured some of the most tumultuous times in our lives. It was like we were living the same life, able to see all the things wrong with each other but not ourselves. As we mature we should see things for what they really are, not what we want them to be. I see that now in Peachy’s life but I don’t think she sees it in hers. We have chatted about things being the way they once where but in all honesty I doubt they ever will be. This doesn’t mean I will stop loving her. I just believe that our “Sisterly Season” has passed and it is time to just slowly release each other…I love you always Tangelo…I hope that if you read this you and I will have talked but if not just know this isn’t about anything specific , just about us moving on with our own lives….


Now don’t read this and get all bummed because Peachy does have a great BFF, scratch that I have an AWESOME big sister. I also have my little sister and I know we will become so much closer when I make the Big Plunge next year…

My big sister is one of those people that God strategically places in your life…You know the chick you meet and fell like ya’ll will never get along….When I met her, I also met Stupid Face, our old boss…lol…he told me to never talk to her because she had a bad attitude and was from New Orleans…LMAO…I was like okay, I’ll keep my distance then…

Thank goodness I didn’t listen; if I had I would have never gotten to know her as the kind, loving, straight forward person that she is. She is a strong, intelligent black woman, a great mother and truly the best friend I could ever ask for.

My little sis…what can I say she is my baby sis, my homie who is down for whatever when it comes to her sis, she is BEAUTIFULLY intelligent even though she has NO common sense…lol…The way she juggles being a great Mommy and an awesome college student is impressive and inspiring to me, the older sister. I love her so much and I truly look forward to late nites studying together, clubbing, days at the beach with our boys and simply just hanging out and reminiscing…


So all in all that fantasy of having my very own Miranda, Charlotte & Samantha (yes, my fashionista narcissistic self is Carrie…lol…) is merely that, a fantasy…


I have all I need in two very special people…I love you always Nika & Pooh Baby…I hope that whoever reads this will be able to experience all that I have with friendships, good and bad because it has helped shape the Peachy I am today…

::My Purpose::

Well last week I began my last year of college before I receive my associate’s degree in Social Work. While my first week was overwhelming in more ways than one, I am truly happy. For the past few years people have been telling me about my passion for children and helping others, and I have just brushed them off for the most part, you know…Like okay yeah thanks for that observation.

But I think that I have gotten confirmation that Social Work is truly my life’s purpose. Both of my classes are taught by the same professor, so last Tuesday I shared my concerns with her. She listened attentively and when I was finished talking, she looked into my eyes with the most sincere look in her eyes and told me that I had nothing to worry about because she could tell that this was in my heart. That I would be fine because I have so much passion for this type of work…

I was absolutely floored, I mean I was speechless and if you know me personally you would know that is damn near impossible. I was filled with so much emotion I had no idea what to say, think, feel…But it just reaffirmed for me that this is my purpose while here on earth.


I hope that in my time as a giver and helper, I can change just ONE persons life. Make them realize how valuable their life is, the life of their children, their family, just everything about them…

I am so happy to be on this journey. My life has had its pitfalls and I know I will have many more before I leave this earth but knowing that what I choose to do can help someone other than my family makes me truly happy inside…


I am also toying with the idea of getting a helper/giver tat too…So look out for future blogs about that…